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The Sky's The Limit
Helen Keller said that "life is either a daring adventure or it is nothing". For your life to have meaning, you must take risks. They allow you to grow and move forward with your life. Life without
risk isn't living at all—it's just staying in the same place doing the same thing.
I'm no stranger to risk taking. When I was 41, I went back to college to get my degree – I took the risk. I retired early
from General Motors – a huge risk for me. I started my own business, another huge risk. And, when I was asked to present a workshop at a Toastmaster's Conference, I said "Yes". I said "Yes" before I
gave myself the chance to say "No" because I wanted to take the risk.
What are you afraid of? What opportunities have slipped through your fingers because you couldn't bring yourself to take the risk to get
started? There's something very comforting in the status quo. We wrap our lives around us like a blanket that is safe and warm. It becomes our cocoon, and it slowly suffocates us! Even the
butterfly emerges from its cocoon, unfolds its wings and risks flying. If it doesn't take the risk, it dies!
I had a client recently who came to me for career counseling. She was unemployed but wanted to
get into nursing, which meant she'd have to go back to school. I asked her if there were any barriers like childcare or transportation issues that would stop her from realizing this and she said "There's only one
thing that's stopping me – I'm afraid." She was afraid to start because she wasn't sure she would finish. She was afraid of being the oldest student in the class. She was afraid of failing
because it had been over 20 years since she had set foot in a classroom. And, she was afraid of succeeding – because it would change her life in ways that she couldn't even imagine.
Don't subscribe to the
belief that "If I can't do it right, I shouldn't do it at all". Most people don't do things right the first time; we need to learn to do things. There's a Japanese proverb that says "Fall down 7 times,
get up 8". It's ok to give yourself permission to experiment with life – to stretch beyond your comfort zone into new territory. There is no failure in falling down, there's only failure in not getting back
up.
My step-daughter was offered what I thought was a wonderful opportunity. She was a manager at an extended-stay hotel, and was offered a position that would let her work at new hotel sites. She'd be in
the loop from the time a new site was chosen, through all phases of construction, until the new hotel opened. Not only were the salary and perks fantastic, it would broaden her experience in so many areas of
business that she could take with her to any job she chose.
She turned it down. "What if I accept and then find out I hate the traveling?" I pointed out it was for only one year. "What if
I'm in over my head?" I stressed that the company obviously had confidence in her or they wouldn't have offered her the position. "What if a hotel doesn't open on time?" I had to give her that one. If
a hotel was late opening, she'd have to step up to the plate and explain what went wrong.
She got caught up in all the "what if's" of the situation. "If" is such a small word, yet we give it so much
power over our lives. Remember, the word "if" is two letters – The "I" stands for Ignorance of what's possible for us, and the "F" stands for Fear of taking the risk to try. Instead of asking "what
if", we'd do ourselves a favor if we started asking "why not".
Don't let fear hold you back from living your life. Fear isn't created by the world around us. It's created inside of our heads by what we
imagine might happen. Mark Twain realized this late in his life. He said "I'm an old man and I've seen a lot of trouble – most of which never happened."
Don't be afraid to take a risk because you think
you're not good enough. Henry Van Dyke said "Use your talents. The woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best." So be like a bird and soar into new possibilities. Remember,
the sky's the limit.
~~Weekly Challenge~~
1. Find a place that's peaceful—away from all distractions like family, television, telephone, etc. Plan to spend at least 30 minutes there thinking about some
risk in your life that you are afraid to take.
2. Focus on each fear that is stopping you. Examine the fear; say it out loud if that helps. Ask yourself what's the worst that could happen if you took a
risk and that fear became a reality.
3. Once you have examined the fear from every angle, close your eyes and visualize the fear floating away from you up into the sky and out of your life.
4. You are now
ready to take the first step toward the goal that you have always thought was too risky for you to try.
Good Luck!
Cindy
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